Missteps are often crucial in finding what works for you, so don’t fret, especially if you’re in your 20s.
Making mistakes is a part of life, and we all know there are some lessons we learn the hard way, no matter what anyone says.
Your 20s are a decade of figuring out who you are while learning how to make your own way in the world. No one is perfect, and you’re bound to take a couple missteps along the way.
So make the “mistakes” you should – and those you shouldn’t – in your twenties. Here are 9 most common mistakes which every girl should make in her 20s.
1. Makeups, breakups and everything in-between
Happiness and sadness: They’re a fluid thing. They’re not permanent, just temporary. So break up, make up, be confused, frustrated and elated. Your twenties are confusing, and your emotions have every right to be just as all over the place.
2. Asking for a raise
A raise. It was terrifying as sh*t, – Will they say no? Do they think I haven’t earned it? Am I over-stepping my boundaries? – but in the end, it was the most invigorating thing I’ve ever done. Know your worth, women – and don’t be afraid to ask for what you want. You are worth a whole damn lot.
3. Sleeping with the wrong guys
The thing about the Wrong Guys is that they are everywhere. They’re on the corner; they’re at the bar; they’re at the office; they’re online. But guess what? So are the right guys.
The trick is learning to separate the Rights from the Wrongs, and sometimes, in order to that, you need to be well-versed in the Wrongs to know a Right when you see one.
4. Apologizing for having a “high” number
Let’s get one thing straight: No one – and I mean no. freakin’. one – has any right to tell you that your number is too high, too low, too mediocre or too outstanding.
At the same time, you don’t ever owe it to anyone to share that number. It’s not open to judgment. It’s not up for discussion.
5. Speaking up in the office; at home; when you’re talking to your best friend; when you’re talking to your boss
Find your voice. The sooner it comes to you, the better because you’re going to need it. You’ll need it when a group of men catcalls you on the street corner.
You’ll need it when you’re telling your best friend that the guy she’s head-over-heels for isn’t worth her time, and you’ll need it at the office when your coworker is blabbing on and on about something he (or she) doesn’t know as well as you do.
Your voice is, obviously, how people hear you. Beyond that, it’s how they respect you, how they come to see you and how they come to understand you. Be heard for the right reasons.
6. Being in a long-term relationship
Relationships aren’t taboo in your early twenties. You should be with people, explore, feel them up and feel them out. You should date, and you should also fall in love.
There’s also something beautiful and exciting about having a partner to get lost in your twenties with. It is a confusing, tear-inducing, joyful and exhilarating mess of an adventure. There are big peaks and deep valleys.
7. Letting go – even when you don’t know what comes next
Quit your job, move to a new city, strip everything and start fresh. Your twenties are your first real taste of the mercury of life.
You’ll fly and flail and fall and fail. More important than all of that, though, is the fact that you’ll learn to do it on your own, and you’ll be okay with that.
So let go when you can. Let go when you’re ready and do it when you’re not 100 percent sure you’re ready. Trust yourself.
8. Cutting the friend fat
Girl, there is no reason – none! – to carry around all that extra weight on friendships that don’t make you see things differently, don’t challenge you, don’t force you be better.
You want to surround yourself with people who make you feel good and strong and supported, even when you’re at your lowest of lows.
9. Spending all your money on experiences, instead of saving for a rainy day
This was probably the hardest “mistake” for me to accept. I wanted to save – for the big picture, for the next move, the next surprise, the next bill – but you can’t bring your bank account with you when you die.It takes time to learn this and to accept it, but things really don’t make you richer.
Experiences make you richer; life does. Tuck a little aside so that you can do what you want, live how you want, but don’t make it the bane of your existence.
You have one chance here. So live it, savings account or not.