We have to work hard on developing good relationships with those around us—our family, friends, lovers, coworkers and bosses. Here are a few nifty little relationship advises secret that will help you become a better person and improve any relationship in your life.
1. Acknowledge the opinions, feelings and needs of others
It’s very easy to get caught up in our own little world. Sometimes we feel so eager to express our feelings and point of view that we neglect the opinions and feelings of others. If you want to build strong, long-lasting relationships you need to start letting people express themselves. And always respect their right to an opinion, even if you don’t think they are right.
2. Be more open to suggestions and compromises
Making the right decision and choosing a course of action that benefits everyone requires input from everyone involved. Try to be democratic when deciding on things like where to go for dinner or dividing tasks amongst colleagues. Understand that you will often have to compromise, and that this sometimes means giving up a lot of ground in someone else’s favor.
3. Give 100% of your attention to the job
Doing your job as best you can not only improves the relationship between you and your colleagues, it also means less stress and more peace of mind during your free hours. This will make you less irritable and more energetic when you hang out with your friends, family, and lover.
4. Spend more of your free time out with people instead of locked up at home
Getting to spend some quality time with your friends, partner, and even colleagues is an essential part of getting to know them on a deeper level. It also allows you to relax and share all kinds of information. Spending more time outside with other people is also a good way to improve your mental health by talking about the problems you might have with your partner or friends—problems that would otherwise eat away at you and put a strain on those relationships.
5. Get a grip on your emotions through regular practice
In order to keep a discussion from escalating into an argument and to deal with the emotional outbursts of others, you need to be able to keep a level head. This means controlling your emotions. With exercises like bikram yoga you can get physical health benefits while learning to stay calm and breathe properly. Sometimes a good run can help clear your head and release bottled up frustrations.
6. Start saying sorry more often
Let’s face it, we all mess up sometimes and end up upsetting a friend, family member or partner. It is important to accept the blame and say that you are sorry. A simple “I’m sorry” can go a long way towards maintaining good relationships and mending ones that have taken a bad turn.
7. Learn to forgive
This one goes hand and hand with apologies. You can’t just keep asking for forgiveness from others, while holding grudges and pouting. Sure, you will need some time to cool off, but you need to allow people to apologize so you can move on. If someone extends a hand in a gesture of peace, don’t slap it away.
8. Encourage healthy discussions instead of fights
Important issues will often come up and you will have to address them with your significant other or your friends and acquaintances. This is normal, but a screaming match where everyone is red in the face will only drain your energy. Instead, try staying calm. This is where all that meditation and yoga breathing comes into play, and discuss your issues without raising your voice or interrupting each other.
9. Stop taking things personally
Not everything someone says is a veiled insult or clever insinuation directed at you. People don’t always have some deep and hidden meanings in mind, nor are they constantly plotting to achieve a sinister goal. Shut your negative inner voice up and take things at face value without making huge logical leaps based on scant information. This will make you seem more relaxed and attentive, and help you avoid embarrassing misunderstandings and big fights over nothing.
10. Don’t jump to conclusions
Being cautious and suspicious are deeply rooted in human nature, but sometimes people go way overboard with insane theories and play out scenarios in their heads that only serve to enrage them and become resentful of another person who may not have even done anything wrong. Don’t let jealousy, anger or your insecurities cloud your judgment and focus on more effective communication that fosters trust.
11. Spend some time with your family in fairly regular intervals
In order to keep your relationship strong you need to actually spend time with people. Family often takes a back seat to other obligations, but you should definitely make the time to see your parents, visit relatives or spend quality time with your partner and kids. Make sure you devote several quality hours to the people you love at least once a week for your nuclear and once a month for your extended family. You can always just call and have a chat.
12. If you’re a man, “She is always right” is the golden relationship rule
Women usually tend to take firm stances on some things, and on a societal level it is acceptable for them to be more emotional and take charge when it comes to running the home. Men are expected to be calmer and can save themselves a lot of trouble by just admitting to the woman that she is right. Of course you will need to speak up on important issues and draw some lines, but don’t try to use logic to prove that you are right – you stand to gain absolutely nothing from it.
13. Never make rash decisions or start conversations when you are feeling angry or moody
Never go to bed angry with your partner, never make a phone call or start a conversation when angry or moody and never make any serious decisions until you have cooled down – live by these rules and you will do a lot less dumb things that you end up regretting.
When you’ve known somebody for a while, you get used to all the nice things they do for you. So you stop appreciating the good and focus too much on their flaws, which turns into resentment and leads to fights. Instead, make your relationship better by choosing to be thankful. Whether you keep a gratitude journal or compliment them for the little things, a little goes a long way.
15.Take care of yourself.
You can’t say “I love you” without saying “I.” That goes for everyone from your significant other to your best friend. The best way to take care of your relationships is to take care of yourself. That means making sure you’re in control of your own life, and not asking for things others can’t provide, like validation or self-acceptance or constant entertainment.
16. Pay attention.
When was the last time you sat down at a restaurant without leaving your phone on the table just in case someone texted you? Put that away and pay attention to the person you’re with! Even if you’re not cell-phone-obsessed, you’re not off the hook. Too many of us don’t actually listen to what other people say. We’re too busy formulating our response in our heads.
17. Stay positive.
Humans are naturally egocentric. So when someone’s mean to us, we assume it’s because that person doesn’t like us. In fact, a 1987 study found that people in unhappy relationships were more likely to assume their partners were being unintentionally unpleasant. But not everyone is out to get you. Next time anyone is being less than stellar to you, assume the best.
18. Pick your battles.
When you hang out with someone long enough, you’re bound to tick each other off now and then. Keep the peace by learning when to argue for your point, and when to just let it go.
19. Argue right.
Of course, you can’t let every battle go. But that doesn’t mean every argument has to be a relationship-ending blowout. Do your best to stay relaxed, calmly discussing your issue instead of screaming at each other. Keep the argument to the topic at hand, instead of using it as an excuse to air old grievances. Apologize when you’re wrong.
20. Be polite.
It’s easy to forget about the little things when you’ve known somebody for so long. But good manners are important in relationship. Say thank you. Open doors for each other. Show up on time when you make plans. They might be little things, but they mean a lot.
21. Know when to call it quits.
Ultimately, some relationships won’t work – whether they’re romantic, platonic or even familial. If a relationship is consistently harming instead of helping you, give yourself permission to get out. It can be hard, especially if that person means a lot to you or you’ve known them for a long time. But you owe it to yourself.
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