It’s tempting to jump into relationships when we meet someone we believe is wonderful. But if it takes a few months to begin gauging someone’s character, and two to three years to truly know them, we are setting ourselves up for disaster if we commit too soon.
They bring up the questions you don’t think of asking, but should be. So, here are the 30 relationship questions you should ask before starting a relationship.
1. What is the ideal number of calls a couple should exchange in a day?
2. Would you compromise your happiness for the success of the relationship?
3. What’s your idea of a romantic vacation?
4. What’s the single most important thing for a relationship to be successful?
5. What would you define as cheating?
6. If I cheated on you, would you ever forgive me?
7. When was the first time you became aware of me?
8. Do you remember the first thing we said to one another?
9. How should finances be planned between a couple?
10. Do you think celebrating Valentine’s Day is corny?
11. What was your first impression about me?
12. Can you avoid flirting if someone attractive flirts with you when I’m not around?
13. Do you think romantic gifts have to be memorable or do they have to be useful?
14. How would you want to spend a special day with each other?
15. What is the most special memory of us that you hold?
16. What was your first impression of me? Did you ever dislike me?
17. Do you have to know all of my friends?
18. Do you think past relationship secrets should always be kept hidden?
19. Do you think confessions make a relationship stronger?
20. Would you feel insecure if I spent a lot of time at work?
21. How many sexual partners have you had in the past?
22. If you were convinced that I was making a bad decision, what would you do about it?
23. Do you like babies/how many kids would you like to have someday?
24. When was the last time you disliked me?
25. If someone attractive exchanges glances with you at work, would you tell me about it?
26. What’s the craziest thing you’d be willing to do for me?
27. What kind of a parent do you think you’d be?
28. When do you think a person is ready for marriage?
29. What’s your favorite memory of me?
30. What do you like best about me?
Let’s find out what other people have to say about a relationship questions on Quora:
Wait until the coffee is at least halfway done then ask, “How did you make a recent ‘big’ decision?” How someone makes decisions tells you a lot about what they value, who they relate to (if anyone), and their maturity level. Read more… By Brett Johnson
It all filters down to how much YOU can trust them. Even if they’re brutally honest, you might have some doubt persisting in your mind. Or even if they’re lying, you might go on to believe them. So, none of the questions would be of any help unless you can make yourself a trustworthy person(I’ll tell you how), and trust them blindly. Yes, you have to! I don’t see any other way. From what I remember, these were a few questions haunting my mind-we are in a long-distance relationship-and I asked her the same without hesitating. Because her words are the only thing I can trust. And our entire relationship, and its future course is based on words. We don’t have much to prove by our actions. So, we believe each other blindly. You see, she/I can ditch the other by taking advantage of this fact. But we don’t, and we won’t. Because we truly love each other! Read More… By Eshan Bhargava
There’s no ‘one question.’ Values are values, and you’re going to disagree with your partner on more than one. What’s most important to you in your life morally, personally? Make a list, figure out your priorities, and then ask the person how highly they prioritized what you have prioritized, and if your values agree. If not, or if they have drastically different priorities, you might not want to be in a serious relationship with that person. Who knows? Happiness in relationships comes from agreeableness more than values, but it sure doesn’t hurt to line up. Read More… By Evan Munn
It’s pretty much where do you want to be in 3 years if things go well? It would take me several dates and a lot more questions to get to the point of asking this one, although from time to time it comes in sooner. Read More… By Devorah Firestone.
Whose your favourite comic? It would be an absolute no go for me if our sense of humour didn’t align in some way. Don’t necessarily have to be a huge Monty Python fan ( it would help) but if it’s Frankie Boyle, Bam Margera or worse ‘I don’t really like comedy.’ Then I’m heading for the hills at speed. Read More… By Deirdre Beecher