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15 Peppy Ideas To Keep Your Romance Alive When Life Gets Messy

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January 6th, 2017   |   Updated on February 26th, 2024

Remember a time when you couldn’t keep your eyes off your partner? One look, one touch, and you’d spend all day glowing in what felt like an all-consuming passion.

But, now that you’ve been together awhile, things have changed. Your days are now filled with to-do lists and social obligations. When your partner caresses you, you might get sleepy rather than turned on.

What keeps you away from living swoony, loopy-in-love life? There are plenty of ways to keep the passion alive all year, which helps to genuinely strengthen your relationship.

Here are 18 peppy ideas to keep your romance alive:

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1. The Date Nights Should Not Stop. Keep Them Going

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Date night creates a unique and special space for one another. People live increasingly busy lives, and often the time and effort required to successfully nurture a relationship can fall by the wayside. Your lives are so busy and full, if we don’t make this time, feelings of being taken for granted can easily come up.

2. The Date Nights Must Be Made Special

A good date idea sets the scene to break the ice and help you make a connection with someone. You can do a fun cardio workout, or take a virtual yoga class, or you can even give each other sensual massages to keep your relationship fresh.

3. Additional Encouraging Words Must Be Offered


You can give your partner compliments, you can express your gratitude for what your partner has done, you can give each other little pep talks.

4. When Relationship Goes downhill, Flirt More


According to David Dryden Henningsen, a lead researcher on flirting from Northern Illinois University, flirting is a goal-motivated behavior.

He identified six specific flirting motivations:

  1. Relationally Motivated
  2. Playfully Motivated
  3. Sexually Motivated
  4. Exploring Motivated
  5. Esteem-oriented
  6. Instrumental

Flirting keeps the playfulness and banter alive. It keeps the energy flowing between two people so they are plugged in, making sex more ‘electric’.

5. Don’t Stop Making Love

There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to know whether sex is importnt in a romantic relationship or not.It all depends on your physical desires and your beliefs. But having a sexual connection with your romantic partner is important. Sex gives you an opportunity to bond with your partner. It could simply be pleasurable and fun.

6. Touch Is Therapeutic. Touch Each Other


Whether you’re touching or being touched, it’s pretty good for what ails you. By being more mindful about how and when you touch each other, you can give our relationships a quick and easy boost.

7. Introduce Surprises Off and On


Surprise your partner with flowers, a card, balloons, or candy on a day that’s not a special occasion. Spice up your sex life with simple role-playing, sexting or even trying a new position every other week.

8. Romanticise Normal Day To Day Activities


Romanticizing your life is a fancy way of saying you take the mundane, daily task, and turn it into something wonderful.

9. Be Stress Free


10. Identify One Stressor Each Of You Can Eliminate


Commit to striving for a healthy relationship, Be respectful even when you are not feeling respected, Make regular emotional deposits, Maintain healthy boundaries to protect your family and relationships from common invaders, Plan for intimate encounters. Tere are many things you can do to destress your relations.

11. Physical Intimacy Helps


Several other studies indicate that physical intimacy is beneficial for physical, psychological and relational well-being. However, little is known about who benefits more or less from this intimacy. Intimacy is just not about having sex; it’s also about cuddling, hugging and small pecks

12. Sharing A Shower Is A Good Idea

Showering together and indulging in it more often will give you many benefits. Someone else washing your hair is incredibly relaxing.  The slight scalp massage and feeling their fingers in your hair is the next best thing to a back rub.

13. Say “No” To Others To Find Time For Your Partner


Spending quality time with your partner is the best way to ensure your relationship stays healthy and strong. This means going above and beyond sitting together while you watch Netflix or going out for the occasional dinner. You deserve more from your relationship – and so does your spouse.

14. “I Forgive You” Can Be Magical In A Messy Relationship


When you’re feeling disappointed, angry or betrayed, the idea of forgiving someone can feel a little bit like giving in. Holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Forgiveness isn’t just about retaining harmony in your relationship; it’s also about being kind to yourself.

15. Laugh More Together With Your Partner


Dance in the kitchen, go on adventures, get dirty, play games (not those kind of games!), just let loose and do what feels right. Never take yourself too seriously. Laughter has so many natural benefits, add relationship improver to that list also.

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