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21 Signs That He Is Not Busy, You’re Just Irrelevant To Him

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July 13th, 2017   |   Updated on March 8th, 2024

Nobody wants to be called irrelevant,  Especially not by the guy you like most. So, whether we admit it to ourselves or not, there are times when you are, in fact, irrelevant to the guy,  you’re so obsessed with. In fact, I would go so far as to say the reason you’re so obsessed with him is because you’re irrelevant to him.

The problem is that instead of just accepting the fact that we don’t matter to him, we try to make up excuses as to why this guy’s not giving us the time of day.

1. If you have hooked up sober, it was in the morning after a drunk hookup.



2. You’ve never hooked up sober.

Hooked Up Sober


3. Your friends are sick of hearing about him, but his friends don’t even know who you are.

friends are sick


4. None of his family members know who you are (that is, if he even has a family because he’s never mentioned them).

Sad Reaction


5. You guys have never shared a meal together.

Angry Reaction


6. He straight-up doesn’t respond to some of your texts



7. He told you he was too busy to hang out, then posted a Snapchat story of himself alone on the couch.

Crying Lady


8. The only time he ever soberly texts you is when he’s extremely bored.

soberly texts you


9. He makes literally no effort with your friends.

Effort With Your Friends


10. Part of you is afraid that if you stopped putting in the effort, your relationship would completely fizzle out.



11. You’ve told him a million personal things about you, and he can barely remember any of it.

Girl Drinking


12. He chooses even the dumbest plans over you.

Dumbest plans


13. His friends (the same ones who don’t know who you are) always come before you.

Friend Who Don't Know You


14. He never wants to hang out in the morning.



15. He never wants to cuddle with you.

He Never Wants To Cuddle With You


16. If you have been on a date, it was one time. And it never happened again.



17. He Snapchats you more than he texts you.

He Snapchats You More Than He Texts You


18. Most of your text conversations are initiated by you.

text conversations


19. You’ve never spoken on the phone unless it was 4 am, and you needed him to buzz you up to his place.

Girl Cryng On Phone


20. If you have shared a meal together, it was either late-night pizza or hungover morning bagels.

shared a meal


21. He makes really big promises that he literally never keeps.

He Makes Really Big Promises That He Literally Never Keeps

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