Marriage is an incredibly beautiful and special experience. There is no argument being made here against it. But sometimes, it is so sensationalized that it simply becomes a concept against which people measure everything else in their lives. So here are some milestones away that could be away from the conventional.
1. Reconnecting with an old friend that you’ve always regretted losing touch with. Being the first one to reach out, to tell them you miss them, to make an attempt to see them again.
2. Traveling to a city you’ve always wanted to explore, and paying for everything on your own dime.
3. Reaching an age where you know how to admit when you’re wrong.
4. Finding that one book that changes your life, even if it’s in the smallest way possible.
5. When you have people over for dinner – and it’s a meal you cooked by yourself.
6. Finding out, and actually understanding, what the hell a deductible is.
7. Telling someone you love them without knowing for sure whether they love you back.
8. Feeling genuinely happy when your friend hits a huge milestone, and learning to not worry about the small bout of jealousy or panic you feel over it.
9. Owning a piece of furniture in your place that wasn’t a giveaway from your parents, wasn’t found on the street, and wasn’t purchased at IKEA.
10. Having certain luxuries that you like to spend your hard-earned money on once in a while, like super soft bedsheets, or a massage, or a really delicious bottle of wine.
11. Going on your first vacation with a significant other – paid for by you two and you two alone.
12. The first holiday you spend with friends instead of family.
13. Getting to that age where you buy your own plane tickets home, instead of begging your parents to do so for you.
14. Changing a tire by yourself on the side of the road, with no help.
15. Deciding to go back and get your Masters if you feel that that’s the best thing for you to do at this moment in time.
16. Getting on your own health insurance plan.
17. Quitting a perfectly good job – not because it’s a challenge or it’s difficult, but because it makes you truly miserable and unhappy.
18. The first time you solve a major problem in your life without seeking advice or approval from those around you.
19. Embarking on a journey to lose weight or get in shape, because you feel that it’s what your body truly needs to be healthier.
20. Accepting a job or promotion that pulls you out of your comfort zone and places you in a city or country where you barely know anyone.
21. Buying or leasing a car completely on your own – with no help from your parents or siblings or friends. Just a purchase or lease agreement that exists simply between you and the car dealership.
22. Reaching a point in your life where, even if you still care about your looks, you’re more concerned with your character, your choices, and the people you surround yourself with.
23. Discovering or rediscovering spirituality in your life, whether that’s through an organized religion, a book, or any other structure that helps you.
24. Giving a heartfelt, well-written, meaningful speech as the Best Man or Maid of Honor at the wedding of someone who is very special to you.
25. Giving money – that you don’t have quite enough of yet – to people or causes that need it.