Published on August 14th, 2020
Living in a fast-paced world means dealing with so many obstacles daily. There is barely any time to rest, and in between work, social commitments, and errands, there is little time left to take care of ourselves.
The archaic opinion that seeking professional help for people with mental health issues is “a weakness” has slowly faded away.
The number of people prioritizing their mental health is growing, thanks to online and offline counseling that are meant to have people embrace self-care.
So, how do we know whether it’s time to seek help or to ‘tough it out’?
- If you’re constantly feeling frustrated or low.
- If you have lost someone that you were close to in the recent past, and are having difficulty processing the loss.
- Unable to feel interested in the things you once enjoyed.
- If you have gone through a catastrophe, or traumatic experience.
- Lost employment, or lost money that is substantial to you.
- Struggled with an addiction or dependency of sorts.
- Gone through multiple personalities in a short period of time.
This list is not comprehensive, and having challenges that aren’t listed here doesn’t mean you should abandon your thoughts on counseling.
There are other more nuanced reasons why you should seek a counselor’s help. Read more about this on BetterHelp.
How To Figure Out When You Need To Seek Counselling
1. You Seem To Always Make Questionable Decisions
Sometimes you see patterns regarding how many times you keep promising yourself that was the last self-inflicted loss you have taken.
These decisions can be unhealthy relationships, bad financial, career, or social choices; where you just can’t seem to get it right to save your life.
A counsellor can help connect your decisions to a challenge that you can then address and overcome.
2. You’re Almost Always Swamped
Very few people genuinely have their lives in order, especially if they don’t have assistants addressing their every whim.
However, if you are always under pressure and unsure of why exactly you are stressed then you might need to get your anxiety and stress under control. A counsellor can guide you towards achieving calm
3. You Feel Like You Are Stagnating
You ever found yourself in a zone that you need to outgrow but are unable to? Could be a job, a position at work, friendships, and yet you are unable to take the bold move to walk away to new challenges.
Your sessions will help you learn how to turn the thoughts in your head into credible steps to achieving them.
4. Your Emotional State Is Unstable
Sometimes even the pettiest of things have you disproportionately angry, or sad, or excited. Having a hold on your emotions is very important as most times we act out of emotion and not logic.
Therapy will help you heal from all the trauma and past experiences that have damaged your emotional stability and build practices that will ensure that even as you face triggers that your emotional state is balanced from within.
5. You Feel Like Your Existence Isn’t True To Your Actual Self
Being true to yourself is one of the hardest challenges that you will have to conquer. To align your beliefs with your actions, without thinking about what other people will think or say. A counsellor can assist you grow and reaffirm your commitment to a life of truth to self.
6. You Need An Objective Opinion
Having people that challenge your value and belief system is key to growth. Only then can you become better; by analyzing your beliefs and how they work for you.
When you have friends and family that only say what you like, then growth will be hard to come by. A counsellor will offer honest, impartial views that will help you make the best decisions for yourself.
7. You Feel You Are Capable Of Better Relationships
The relationships we have in our lives are indicators of more than our social skills. Relationships are a complex web of emotions, whose mastery is hinged on how successful our relationships are.
Having sessions will enable you to approach your relationships intimately, acknowledging your role, and playing it.
8. You Are Getting Subtle And Open Hints
Not everyone will have an intervention to tell you that they think you need to talk to a professional. Some will drop hints, expressing their concern on how much you’ve changed, or how worried they are about you.
Your close circle knows you best, and they can pick up on the slightest of changes. However, ensure you are going for You, otherwise, your whole therapy program will be in vain.
9. You Want To Understand Yourself At A Deeper Level
Understanding your thought process and the biases that inform our decision making is important. We get to know our strong and weak areas, and how we can play to our strengths while reducing the impact of our weaknesses.
Our complexes can blind us to reality while our inferiorities can have us downplaying our strengths. Having a professional’s opinion can help us sort out our thought processes and find fresh, much-needed perspectives.
10. Sometimes You Need Someone To Talk To
Sometimes we just want to go off about what we are going through without having to think about judgment.
A therapist offers an unbiased, non-judgmental ear, without feeling like you are burdening them or pitting them against another party with vested interests. A counsellor will let you pour your heart out and leave you feeling better.
Attend therapy for yourself, and with a therapist you feel understands you and will help you with your journey towards healing and self growth. This will help you find the peace that you have been seeking.