January 12th, 2018 | Updated on April 26th, 2023
Single and ready to meet your new bae? Take one or two of these flirting tips for a test-drive each time you go out and see what works for you.
If your flirting skills are lacking, it’s time to step it up. This is, of course, if you’re looking to procure a mate.
And you are, aren’t you? Isn’t everyone? Well, the thing about flirting in that whole finding a boyfriend or girlfriend department is that it works.
Here are some other interesting facts about flirting and seduction that you didn’t know, but probably should.
1. Get closer.
Then break eye contact just long enough to glance down at their lips. It’s a subtle cue that you’re open to a kiss.
2. Eye contact makes you more attractive.
Once you get that whole smiling thing down, go in for some eye contact. Not only is it a major signal that you’re interested, but eye contact can go as far as making someone even more attracted to you than they would have been. Studies have found that a “mutual unbroken gaze for two minutes with a stranger” leads to “increased feelings of passionate love.
3. Women who touch while flirting get more dates.
While men need to play it cool when it comes to this one, if women lay it on thick, it will reel in the dates. There are three levels of touching: friendly (shoulder push or tap), plausible deniability (touching around the shoulder or waist, or on the forearm), and nuclear, which is the face touch.
4. Playing hard to get really does work.
Yep, it’s true, and the studies can back it up. Making yourself appear to be a “scarce resource worth having” while maintaining your interest is the ticket. People want what they can’t have.
5. Men don’t consider age to be a factor.
When it comes to a playful night out with the ladies and flirting just for fun, 83 percent of guys say they don’t care how old (or young) you might be. And when it comes to a good time, age doesn’t weigh too heavily for dudes.
6. The sexier your voice, the better your chances.
Men don’t do so great when it comes to turning on the sexy voice, but women have all the advantages in that category. Along with being able to successfully manipulate our voices, if we’re interested we tend to talk smoothly and quickly. If we’re meh on the situation, our speech ends up being hesitant and awkward.
7. Angling your head can also determine how you come across.
Scientists at the University of Newcastle in Australia have found that you’re most alluring when you angle your head forward, so you’re forced to look ever-so-slightly upward. This creates a more feminine look, and we know how guys dig that.
8. Wearing red is more attention-grabbing.
Whether you choose red lips or a red dress, the color red will bring all eyes to you. The red dress effect not only helps in attention-getting, but also makes women appear more open to sexual advances. This may or may not be what you want, but it’s something to consider before going out on the prowl.
9. Being direct is better than using cheesy pickup lines.
While women prefer boring opening lines that lack pizzazz, men want women who are direct. There’s nothing sexier than knowing what you want; however, both men and women agree that “cute” pickup lines are just awful.
10. It has amazing health benefits.
Weird, right? But those who get their flirt on and do so regularly are walking around with higher white blood cell counts, which means they’re really, really healthy.
11. Make dates spontaneously.
I’m craving a McFlurry!! Drop what you’re doing and hit the drive-thru with me.
12. Draw attention to your lips.
Keep chapstick in your bag and swipe it on when you’re sitting in class with your crush.
13. Keep up your Snap streak.
It’s a subtle way to show you care.
14. Smile and say hi when you pass them in the halls.
No need to get into a big conversation (unless you want to!). Just take a half-second to wave, then keep moving. Boom — you’ll be on your crush’s radar.
15. Ignore your crush… but not for long.
It sounds counter-intuitive, doesn’t it? But imagine running into your crush and a group of their friends at McDonald’s. Say hi to their friends first and strike up a convo. Your crush will feel the tiniest bit left out, until you turn to include them.
16. Choose a theme song. Play it to pump yourself up while you’re getting ready.
Then whenever you hear it when you’re out, it will make you feel good — and bold enough to say hi to the hottest of the hotties.
17. Borrow their hat.
You can give it back eventually. Just not until they see how cute you look in it!
18. Check out their clothes
Ask about the sports team, band, or brand on their T-shirt. They’ll notice that you noticed.
20. Spritz perfume on the back of your neck.
Your crush will catch your scent when you lean in for a hug.
21. Be obvious sometimes.
Like when you “accidentally” throw your Frisbee toward cuties in the park, an exaggerated apology lets them know you’re flirting on purpose.
22. Send a quick flirty text a minute after you trade numbers.
It will take them by surprise and make them smile.
23. Don’t respond.
Try this tip from Kendall and Kylie’s bro Brody Jenner: “When you’re texting, don’t respond to every single thing a guy says. Leave some questions hanging. He’ll be more invested in the conversation if he has to chase it a little!
24. Snapchat movies shows or games you’re going to see.
If they’re a fan too, they’ll have a reason to comment (and you’ll have an excuse to invite them along).
25. Introduce a cutie to your friend.
It’s easier to approach a person for someone else — and then you’ll get to talk to their cute friends.
26. Pass a handwritten note at a party that says
Just saying hi!” Slip it into their pocket — it’s a million times cuter than a text
27. Channel your cool-girl crush.
Bella Thorne is the definition of breezy — she never looks ruffled around guys. If you don’t have that same completely cool attitude, fake it until you really feel it.
28. Tease them a little.
When a cutie you’re talking to first tells you their name, say, “What?” so they have to lean in to repeat himself. Then say, “What?” again with a smile. You’ll break the ice with your playful joke.
29. Give them a (sorta) hard time.
I love when girls make fun of you a bit and try to drive you off-sides. That’s the best — when you’re like, ‘Whoa, whoa!'” advises Gossip Girl hottie Chace Crawford.
30. Leave them wanting more.
Go in for a kiss at the end of the night — but then turn your head and whisper you had a nice time instead.