Published on June 2nd, 2017
You know the thrill of a new relationship? When everything feels perfect and exciting? Perhaps you felt excitement, attraction, and anticipation? Chances are you were exceptionally attentive, polite, and considerate with this exciting new person in your life. You likely made an extra effort to be on your best behavior. As the relationship has progressed, how well have you maintained those initial feelings and behaviors?
If you are in a long term relationship that is starting to feel a bit stale or unsatisfying, here are some tips to help you regain your love life back the scientific
1. Give more space to positive thinking
Try giving more space to positive thinking to replace the negative thinking. You will discover thinking about your significant other in a loving, caring and positive ways.
2. Appreciation and gratitude, the positive key words
The key to nearly everything in life is your mindset, according to Heather Kristian Strang, spiritual author and guide. In other words, whether you lead a joyful, blissful life or a negative and depressing life is pretty much up to you. So your choice of the kind of stories you want to tell yourself about your partner and their actions and everything else in your life determines the quality of your life.
Often the primary focus in a derailed relationship is fixing up what went wrong. That unfortunately is counterproductive as it drains your energy and vitality. Remember that wisdom from Einstein, you cannot solve a problem with the same mindset that created it. The draining and depleting energy can be restored with gratitude and appreciation and will help you discover creative solutions to a relationship going downhill.
3. Staying positive is not the same as looking through rose tinted glasses
Paul DePompo is a clinical psychologist and author of ‘The Other Woman’s Affair’. He explains the meaning of being positive. It means being in the present, according to him. Being here and now helps appreciate your partner every day. It means being able to successfully handle relationship and to cope and move ahead in life if it doesn’t work out successfully. The point is, either way the positive thinking is a great asset because you won’t feel disappointed if it doesn’t turn out as expected. Positive thinking can help you focus on living and it will help make the best of your relationship.
4. It helps to be vulnerable
Positive thinking can and does in fact make an impact on how much you love your significant other, while negativity holds you back. With the surge of negative thinking, you are unlikely to be vulnerable in your relationship as you are unlikely to see the good intentions of your partner in whatever they do or say. That is because you are likely to feel guarded. A close and secure bond, according to DePomp is most likely when you are vulnerable and also at the same time able to see your partner’s best intentions despite disagreements.
As we’ve seen, positive thinking can impact the amount of love you have for your partner because negativity can hold you back. When negative thinking happens, it’s nearly impossible to be vulnerable in your relationship. You just won’t be as open to seeing the good intentions behind your partner’s behavior since you’re more likely to feel guarded. “Being able to be vulnerable and see the good intentions in your partner (especially during disagreements) are important ingredients to forming a close and secure bond,” DePompo says.
Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. ~ Oscar Wilde
Source : bustle.com