Published on August 28th, 2019
There is no denying that infidelity sucks. Finding out that the one you have decided to share your private world with is being unfaithful can lead to deep emotional trauma.
It is a lot like going for a skydiving lesson only to be pushed over the edge of the plane without a parachute and an instructor. Sounds familiar?
The good news? That is all a nightmare, but you can wake up from it.
Professionals have established that many people who experience such an emotional betrayal from a loved one soon begin to show symptoms of PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder).
And while you should always seek professional help to battle your unstable emotional state and the overwhelming feeling of disorientation, there is a lot you can do on your own so you can finally pick yourself up after this dreadful fall.
Start A Journal
A lot of our inner pain after an affair comes from thoughts and feelings that remain unspoken and/or not shared.
Get a notebook or use your laptop (whichever seems more natural to you), and simply write it all down.
The questions you have, the thoughts that don’t let you sleep at night, how your days are going, the memories you can’t forget, everything. Don’t be afraid of your honesty.
Don’t hold back. The sooner you get it out of your system, the sooner you will make space for other, better thoughts and feelings to enter.
It may seem strange and pointless to you at first, but as time passes, you will be able to see how your post-affair journey unfolded day by day literally.
It will help you gain an appreciation for how much better you are doing today versus how much worse you felt a month ago. Dealing with infidelity isn’t easy, but this step will make it so much better.
Sport Is the Best Distraction
After the relationship has ended, there is the fundamental question of “how do you fill the void?”
No matter if it is about habits or a genuine need to spend time with your ex, you will seek distraction to battle the overwhelming desire to go back to something that is no longer there.
Of course, there are many distractions, but this is where it falls on you to make a healthy choice. Instead of filling your body with substances that will harm you, it is best to channel all your anger, disappointment, and pain into sports.
You will feel energized and strong. You can take up swimming, running, boxing, anything really. It will serve both as a distraction and a “feel good” tool.
Surround Yourself With Good People
Dealing with an unfaithful partner is not a road you should walk alone. But you shouldn’t walk it with just anyone.
Now is a good time to clear your social circle of unreliable people, haters, or those you simply don’t want to tolerate anymore. You don’t need that.
Make sure your social circle brings positive energy into your life, and you love spending time with those people.
That will bring so much value to your life and help you heal in more ways than you can imagine.
Whatever you do to deal with infidelity, make sure it is for the right reasons. Otherwise, you risk greater disappointment down the road.
Get in shape or start living healthy for you, and not because you think it will make your ex come back to you.
Remember, 1 is not always less than 2, especially when the latter brings pain and disappointment into your life. You got this.