Published on December 11th, 2018
Being the primary caregiver for a loved one is an admirable pursuit and is not, of course, without its rewards. Helping others makes us feel fulfilled. That being said, it is important for carers to monitor themselves, and to be aware that seeking help is in no way a failing.
Know Where You Can Find Help
There are options for you when you need a chance to recharge. In Australia, we have a number of government services designed to help carers provide the best care to their loved ones, whilst also staying on top of their own quality of life.
It is also important to make sure you have the freedom to air your thoughts and feelings in a safe environment. Look for carer support groups in your area. There are counsellors who specialise in working with carers to make sure they are in the best possible place to help.
Sometimes, though, you really do just need a break. When this happens, it’s important to know that there is support out there for you too. Respite care is a great option for people who need temporary help and support, allowing them to refresh and then return to provide the best possible care. Having professional staff on hand to tend to the needs of your loved one takes away that stress without compromising their wellbeing.
Make it Easier on Yourself
Most carers go about their duties with minimum instruction. There are brochures from hospitals and helpful nursing staff to answer some questions, but these can only go so far in providing you with the necessary skills. Often skills like time-management, hygiene, and clear communication can be transferred from life and work, and brought to bear in the home when providing care.
If time allows, however, it can be worth pursuing official training and certifications in the fields of care that apply to your own situation. In practice, this gives you access to a group of professional teachers, many of whom will have worked professionally as respite carers and nurses.
Using their knowledge and experience, and a place where you can ask whatever questions you need and can expect professional answers that are up-to-date with current standards of practice may be highly beneficial. And on top of that, you would be learning alongside other people with similar interests and stories.
Make Sure You Have Space
Even though you share a roof with the person you are caring for, you still need to make sure that there is a space in your home where you can place the carer mantle aside for a few minutes. Pick one room of the house – the bedroom, study, or even the garage – that you can set up with all the things you need to make you feel good about yourself. Do you like tea? Put in a kettle and your favourite tea blends. Yoga? Have your mat ready to go. Art? Set up a desk with space for your pens, brushes and art books.
You may not get the chance to use it every day. You may not even need to. But sometimes just knowing that there is a space waiting for you when you need it is enough to get you through the day.
And lastly, remember that caring is something that you do. It is not, nor should it be, who you are. Always keep in mind that you have your own needs, your own interests and drives, and you care because… well, you care.
