Published on May 31st, 2021
There’s a lot of talk at the moment about exclusivity and monogamy. It seems like more people than ever before are not being monogamous in their relationships but are casually seeing and being with multiple people at the same time. The fact you’re reading this means that you’re probably in a situation involving this yourself.
Maybe you’re seeing or dating multiple people, or maybe someone you’re seeing is not exclusive to you, but what does this do to your relationship?
This is even more common in divorced couples where you’ve managed to stay civil with your ex-partner, but now they’re seeing other people, and it’s making you feel a bit strange. Are there any benefits to this? Is seeing other people in any of these situations a good thing? Let’s find out.
It All Depends on You
I know this wasn’t the answer you wanted to hear, but it’s genuinely the only one that can be given. Whatever situation you’re in, you need to sit down and ask yourself whether you’re okay with what is happening.
We’re all different and can deal with different things. Some people love being in serious relationships with two or more other people, and it’s their life. They’re happy that way.
Some people will absolutely hate the fact that someone is dating or seeing someone else in addition to them, and while they try to be ‘okay’ or ‘cool’ with it, the truth of the matter is that it’s eating them up on the inside.
If these feelings go unchecked, it’s going to destroy you, your confidence and your happiness, and you’re surely not going to have a stronger relationship at the end of it all, most importantly, not with yourself.
What Can You Do About It?
There are multiple solutions to how you can approach this situation. If you’re dating, you need to either talk to the other person about how you feel.
This, of course, means taking the time to sit down with yourself and actually decide what you want. Do you want to be with this person?
Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person? If not, then it’s probably just worth moving on, to begin with.
On the other hand, if your ex-partner is dating someone else and it’s affecting the relationship you have with them, again, you need to talk to them.
Things can get heated in such exchanges, so you may want a family lawyers advice to figure out how you’re going to approach the situation.
In some cases, you may be winding yourself up by overthinking things. The human imagination loves to run wild and will drive you mad if you let it go unchecked.
However, if you can move past it and accept it, maybe it’s not as big a problem as you first thought it was. If you have peace of mind, and you genuinely enjoy spending time with the other person, then maybe you can live with it.
Remember, just because someone else is seeing other people, that doesn’t mean you have to. Sure, try it out and see if you like it, but there’s no pressure to do it just because someone else is.
There are endless approaches you could take when it comes to answering whether seeing other people is a good or bad thing.
Still, at the end of the day, it comes down to you and the person you’re in a relationship with coming to a mutual agreement about where you both stand and having respect for one another.