July 25th, 2017 | Updated on July 2nd, 2022
If you feel like you keep trying and failing with each new relationship you get into, you may need to reanalyze your relationship habits. To help you ensure your next relationship is a healthy and happy one, here are 30 questions to ask if you are face to face with a prospective partner and if asked of you, to be answered with naked honesty:
1. Would you date someone who was always optimistic?
2. What combination of fixings makes your perfect burrito?
3. What is the best gift you’ve ever received?
4. What is the most thoughtful gift you’ve ever given?
5. Who is your role model or has had the biggest influence on your life?
6. What is something you are financially saving up for currently?
7. Where is your happy space?
8. What is your favorite article of clothing you own?
9. Do you have any specialty cooking dishes?
10. What is one job you could never do?
11. When is your birthday?
12. What is in your fridge right now?
13. What do you like to do when you’re not working?
14. Are you more of a TV person, or do you prefer movies?
15. Depending on the above answer, ask what they’re watching, or what they’ve seen lately.
16. What type of music are you into?
17. Do you have any nicknames?
18. What’s your biggest pet peeve?
19. Coffee or tea?
20. Where else would you consider living?
21. Are you as tired of KimYe as I am?
22. Do your parents still live in the house you grew up in?
23. What’s on your bucket list?
24. Are you a morning person or a night person?
25. How often are you open with your feelings?
26. Do you often make jokes that offend more uptight people?
27. Do you believe in the power of prayer?
28. Once you’re intimate, how often would you and your significant other have sex?
29. Do you have a problem with racist jokes?
30. Are geeks sexy?
Let’s find out what other people have to say about Dating Questions on Quora:
Conventional boring first-date questions will yield conventional boring first-date answers (What do you do? Where do you live? How do you like it? Blah blah blah). Boring answers are “safe” and “safe” is tempting because you’re on a date with a potentially high-value prospective mate and your lizard-brain is telling you protect yourself. Your lizard brain is WASTING YOUR TIME. Read More…By Kai Peter Chang.
The key is to ask interesting questions that can’t be answered in one sentence. Asking more interesting questions makes your date more colorful, enjoyable, and more intriguing. It will also make you a more memorable person and help you land that second date. Read More…Joshua Otusanya
Don’t ask Questions Make Statements – Statements are how we have conversations with friends. We pepper questions in there every now and then but mostly we say stuff and trust that they will respond. If you must ask questions ask leading questions – This is important for guys, but ask pointed questions every now and then. It will make her ask herself “Why did he have that assumption?”Examples: “You like cats right?” “You’re from the East Coast, huh?”“You look like you like to travel?” Read More…William Beteet
“If the zombie apocalypse happened tomorrow what would you do?” I ask this question to find out how they would react in a situation where they lost everything.Why? Because strong couples can handle the worst situations. I’d gauge each response differently. “I don’t know.” I assume she doesn’t handle life obstacles well. Read More…Josh Fechter
OKCupid has some great ones. Here are some more that I like. What’s your ideal body of water? This is a fun little game that I learned way back in 5th grade, and I’ve been using it for my amusement ever since. You tell the girl you have a little psychological test for her, and then ask her the following questions: What’s your favorite animal? Describe it in as much detail as you can. What’s your favorite color? Describe it in as much detail as you can. What’s your ideal body of water? Describe it in as much detail as you can. Read More…Jack Henson
You have a date coming up, now you need to know how to blow them away with sparkling captivating conversations. What do you ask?. How do you build a bond quickly? Today! I’m going to give you my five favorite first date questions. Read More…Lan Nguyen Ngoc
First Dates are Intersting and full of nervous energy . In-order to nail the first date even pick-up artists take a while to crack the code. So in about 50 first dates that I must have been to some great questions to get to are : My favourite one for years since I think it worked on the woman of my dreams is to talk about FORER EFFECT : Barnum effect It has a set of 13 questions about which 90% of humans feel exactly same . So the key here is that you tell the person how you can study their face or any suitable pre-text and start nailing these questions I bet you this will lead to a solid conversation . Read More…Konark Sharma
I said, “If you could have any superpower, what would it be and why?” I had blurted it out as she was speaking mid-thought, so she kind of startled. I was on my first date with a girl at a coffee shop today and she had launched straight into work stuff, what I did and what she did.The topic had reached analytics and data structure. I was dying to move on. So I asked that question. Read More…Andrew Frawley
First and foremost – first dates are meant to be lighthearted and are the perfect time to get to know each other and have fun. Emphasis on the fun part! That means that you should never start asking any “deep” or otherwise intrusive and very personal questions right off the bat! That will just make you look WEIRD and even CREEPY! Read More…Andrius Saulis
The specific questions aren’t nearly as important as the attitude and energy of the interaction. Smile, be playful, give her a (playful) hard time about something, laugh, and talk about things you’re passionate about. All of these things have actually have a physiological effect on you and her, which result in her having a good feeling about how the date went once it’s over, regardless of the specifics of the conversation. Read More…Sunny Durante
Melinda Gaebel offered some excellent questions. I’d add “How did you get into your field, did you always want to be X? was it your major?” and “Have you always lived in the area? where did you grow up?” I think its more important to have a conversation than to ask pointed questions. One of my single friends calls it “the back and forth.” If she asks you a question, after you’ve answered you should ask her the same. Chances are she wouldn’t mind sharing her answer and you can compare your experiences. If you don’t return the question you can give the impression that you aren’t interested and you like talking about yourself. Read More…Pamela D’Luhy
Before you even open your mouth, remind yourself of one thing: your goal is NOT to make them like you, but to decide if you like them.The purpose of a date is to find out if you two would like to spend more time together. Don’t bias the results towards “yes”. It doesn’t help you in the long run. That said, here are my favorite questions to ask someone I’m just getting to know, date or otherwise. Read More…Conner Davis