Published on August 4th, 2017
What is true love all about? Everyone wants to know what true love is, and many people think they can feel it when it happens, but do they? Are they experiencing true love or are the experience infatuation, lust, or even wishful thinking? Moreover, is true love something that is actually possible, or is it all in our heads?
These 10 Signs will help you to determine if what you have in your relationship is true love!
1.There Is Complete Respect
If you have found true love, then you will give and receive respect. You will respect them for who they are and what they do in the world, including with you. You will see the good in them. You will treat them as a human being and view them as your equal, not your superior or someone who is lower than you. And, they will treat you with the same level of respect.
Commitment implies the ability to stay connected no matter what. A mature person is one who can work through misunderstandings and hurts. A key to staying together is believing the best of the other person, not prejudging them with bad motives. It is working positively to resolve issues. For a couple to stay together they must consistently break through the barriers of being hurt while assuming that the other person wants to resolve the issue also.
3. He uses “We” when talking with other people
Even though you have individual needs, after some time you start thinking about the two of you as one person. You think about how the thing you do or says will affect your relationship. If your boyfriend tends to use WE instead of I when he talks about you two to other people it means that he feels that you are part of him and he thinks of you two as one whole. Using We instead of I suggests that your relationship is serious and important part of both of your lives.
4. Having Fun Even When Doing Nothing at All
True love means that you feel comfortable in any situation with your partner. When you stop expecting that he’ll make you laugh or do something extraordinary every day and the pressure you have to do something interesting every time you spend time together stops, you know that you like someone’s company because you just simply love them, and there’s no need for them to do anything. If he likes spending all his free time with you doing just regular things and if you can even enjoy silence together, and have fun with anything you do together you are one lucky couple whose relationship is worth fighting for.
Intimacy leads to attachment. It creates closeness and connectedness. We call this process becoming bonded with another person. Intimacy grows first by spending much time with another person. Then it grows deeper by sharing with one another every aspect of our lives. Intimacy is built on trust and safety. If you cannot trust and feel safe with a person then intimacy disappears and will degenerate into distrust and suspicion.
6. You Don’t Focus On Their Flaws
This is not what a lot of people believe it to be. I hear many people (many in my direct life) who say that their abusive relationship is what true love is all about because they are willing to look past their partner’s faults and accept them for who they are. They are willing to take the physical and mental abuse, but it shows their partnerjust how much they care. That’s not true love, that’s being a victim. Accepting someone’s flaws means accepting that they are not perfect. It doesn’t mean accepting that they treat you poorly.A flaw is something that they have not perfected yet, such as a weakness in putting their laundry away or a lack of commitment to things that could really benefit their lives. It is not something that they do to you to make you feel bad or hurt you.
7.You See Things From Their Perspective
When the relationship is about you, then your perspective is all that you see. But, when you are in a relationship with someone you truly love, you value that person enough to see things from their perspective.For instance, you can see their true intentions, instead of labelling what you think their intentions are. You can also see where they are coming from and why they need or want what they do in their life, instead of judging them for needing or wanting something different than you.
8. Attraction and Passion
The lack of passion is often an indicator that something in a relationship is not working well. On the other hand, if you still feel the passion in after years of a relationship that’s a clear sign that you two cannot without each other. After some time relationship can become a bit monotonous, so it’s vital to still find each other attractive and to keep the passion alive. Making the initial sparkle last throughout the relationship may be difficult but it is a clear sign that you are really compatible and that you shouldn’t be worried about
things getting boring.
9.You can handle being friends
If you share your opinion and thoughts on everyday small things, you give each other advice and unconditional support in everything you relationship has one of the essential parts-friendship.This means that you can rely on your boyfriend and that he’ll be there for you in the middle of the night. There’s no true love without friendship so consider yourself lucky if you have your best friend in your boyfriend
10.You Are Willing To Stay During The Tough Times
Your partner gets sick, physically or mentally. They are struggling with a life crisis that has pushed them into a different state of being. They are struggling with finding themselves. All of these times can be tough, but if you are experiencing true love with someone, you will stay, support, and find ways to help them through their tough times.